Susan: I definitely see what you're coming from. Growing up I tried my best to "blend in." I actually have an affinity for non-asians, cause hey, I didn't want to seem like- I don't know- "too different?" A little older, I started to kinda like it, like middle school maybe. Around chinese new year or anything Like that I'd be like hey; I'm chinese damnit. I'm asian-but I am just like one of you. I'd have this weird sense when I met someone that I had to prove I could speak english without any accent. Also, my wit was not as far developed, and an asian friend an I would through racial slurs at each other to be funny-it worked of course. And I guess after that is about where I am now. 3 of my best friends are asian-John if this answers your question- I think that I am friends with them because of life's circumstances; I didn't seek them out for their black hair or avoid them for their tan skin. They happen to be my friends, and they happen to be asian. However, I guess I am kind of defensive...if someone says something I don't like I'll say something (unless they're bigger than me of course) but on the whole I guess I'm alot less defensive. I definitely don't like it when people I'm not friends with say something racial. One of my friends is have white and half korean (the caucasian specifics I know not), and I think his is an interesting case. I think that because he's not 100 % he is the most open. He makes the most racial jokes and it kinda makes me uncomfortable. He has people call him the nickname "chong" when his real name is andrew. SOmeone asked him how he got the nickname- but I can put 2 and 2 together. I said "drew, someone couldn't think of your name, so they called you chong." I hate this nickname and I find the most asians wouldn't, but for some reason he embraces it. Well sorry guys I don't know if that made any sense. In conclusion, it's OK to be asian haha. It's OK to ask "Who forgot their backpack" and answer "the asian kid." The only time I get angry when I honestly believe someone is looking down on me-then we'll have a problem. Well I went off in 3,000 tangents but whatever...I hope this was, uh, insightful?(oh and kelsie interestingly enough my brother had to read that book when he became a resident advisor.

posted by Adam   [5:37 PM]

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